Most of the time, our relationships are the most important part of our lives.

Life is about our families, friends, and loved ones.

But why are our relationships so befuddling and challenging?

Why does it sometimes seem that getting along with other people feels like rocket science?

It seems some people are so different, strange, and confusing. We don't understand why they are the way they are.

Couldn't they at least be a little bit different or behave a bit more this way or that way?

It seems like they operate from a different planet!

We think our lives would be so much better if they would just do things differently or better!

But it's not about you! Stop taking everything so personally!

Your thoughts, feelings, actions, and results in your life are on you!

Everyone else's thoughts, feelings, actions, and results are on them!

The problem lies in the belief that we can somehow manage someone else's thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Have you ever tried this before? I have, and it never, ever, ever works.

And it is impossible! The only way you can influence someone else is if they permit you to. But 99% of the time they don't want your opinion and won't listen anyway!

So if you're in other people's business, stop and get back in your lane first.

Then if you're insistent on being in other people's business, stop making it about you!

Walk a day, a week, a mile in their shoes!

Hold compassion and non-judgment for them, understanding their thoughts and feelings.

Until you fully and completely understand where they're coming from, you have no business judging them. (Which by the way, is darn near impossible to do!) It takes professional training and practice to actively listen without putting your filter on their lives!

So folks, your job is to let others have their experiences of their lives and love them anyway. Your job is to take care of your own thoughts and emotions.

This is excellent news because it's the only thing you actually can control!

What a relief!