Balance of Emotions
Very often you are in a big rush to get to a goal you want to achieve. You may want to lose weight, feel better, or get rid of annoying food sensitivity symptoms.
Goals are incredible but are you setting the goal in hopes to feel better emotionally when you get there?
Are you sure?
Of course, that is how we all think. But it works the other way around!
When you think and feel better, you are more aligned with your goal. Your goal then becomes a byproduct from a different way of habitually thinking and feeling.
You must change the way you think and feel first to reach your goals permanently.
It has to be this way.
Otherwise, you are using willpower to muscle your way to the finish line.
Willpower never lasts.
When you reach the finish line, you release a deep breath and return to the comfortable old patterns.
I want you to imagine how someone who doesn’t struggle with food thinks and feels?
They are not thinking about the "food problems"!
Their thoughts are on their next level of growth.
The balance of emotions is best understood when you genuinely grasp the concept that attaining goals and results are not even about the goal!
It's about feeling alive and becoming the person you want to be!
You, of course, want to feel better and have higher levels of health, but when you fix that problem you will create a new problem!
Most set a goal in the hopes that life will be better there than here. But is it?
Well, yes and no!
You have a balance of emotions no matter what stage or phase of your journey you are on.
You have the pluses and the minuses, the ups and the downs.
A widespread disillusion that many believe is that when you get there, the emotional balance will be better.
This causes you to hurry and get there to feel better! You are in a big fat rush to get to the land of "I feel amazing”!
Our advertising industries foundation is based on the idea that it will be better there than here!
If you buy this or that, you will have the life of your dreams!
What people forget is that in the life of your dreams you still have problems and negative emotions.
Imagine what problems will arise when you are at your goal weight and you have eliminated food sensitivities?
You will have the problems of being present in your life!
Instead of the obsession and focus on food, you will have to face all the facets in your life!
It is so much easier to think and spin on food problems rather than face your emotions, your discontent, relationship pain, boredom, and yourself!
I love Brooke Castillo's work with the model of the 50/50 rule!
She talks about how life is always 50/50. When you solve one problem, it always creates a new problem.
Always!
The decision I always like to think about is, what kind of emotional balance do I want do I want?
Knowing that 50% of the time it will be negative, what emotions am I willing to feel?
I find this very helpful to look at when I want to go to easy and comfortable.
You always get to choose the flavor, but you will never get away from the negative 50%
EVER!
Knowing this helps me to slow down and realize it's all fine! I won't ever be getting to a place of zero negative emotions!
When you aren't in such a rush to get away from them, it's easier to move into them.
Moving into emotions is precisely how to move past them.
What results do you want?
Changing your body weight or food sensitivity issues is fantastic, but you will have the trade-off of actually feeling your emotions.
You won't get the indulgence of feeling comfortable, but you will get the joy and delight of energy and health!
You will always have a positive emotion and negative emotion. You get to decide what they are based on the results you want.
Click the button to download the emotional balance worksheet! Fill out the worksheet and notice what emotions you feel when you are staying the same and what you feel when you are willing to grow and change?