Getting good at the grapple!
Most of us go headlong into our goals with the idea that when we reach the goal, we will be happy.
We suffer through all of the hard stuff, holding our breath.
When will all this crap be over so I can let out a sigh of relief?
This is precisely why you don't reach the goal and stay there. You are pushing through resistance with force, and it feels awful.
When you reach the goal, you let off the gas and you're right back to where you started.
I want to offer you a different way of looking at goals.
You don't want to head into the goal with the idea of reaching it and feeling better. You want only to pursue the goal of becoming a fuller version of yourself.
This may sound like Chinese... but it's not.
How many things have you achieved in your life that you now spend zero time being thankful for? You are already on to the next bigger and better idea.
This is human nature and not a bad thing. It's the very mechanism inside of all of us and we will always want to grow!
But this way is a pretty miserable ride when you force your way to the goal without becoming the person who achieves the goal effortlessly.
I want to show you a better way of growth that is fun because come on...
Life is about having fun and enjoying each day!
Getting good at the grapple is finding joy, gratitude, comic relief, and pleasure in your journey.
It's losing the mindset that it has to be hard, tedious, and painful!
Rewiring your brain and then and only then receiving the result is the way to get good at the grapple.
I want you to realize that by being in those challenging growth moments, you are paving the way for exhilarating success!
As you practice this and realize that those horrifying growth moments are not to be resisted and dreaded, then you are getting good at the grapple!
You learn that those moments of pain, discomfort, and fear are worth it as you experience the bursts of explosive growth.
Finding peace, contentment, self-love, and self-care in every moment of your journey is where it's at.