Empowerment Vs. Dis-Empowement

What is the end goal with all of this coaching and self-improvement stuff?

Is it living your dream life that is perfect and you're happy all of the time?

Not at all my friend, it is living in a space where you can live, love, and pursue your inner calling.

I think there are two distinct ways to live your life.

One is knowing you are always making the choices and taking full ownership of them, and the other is thinking life happens to you.

You most likely aren't thinking about how you are living your life, and are just bumbling your way through, trying to get through the day.

Life is happening to you, and you're just along for the ride!

When you are living in empowerment, you see that each day and moment is a choice. (BTW, you are choosing whether or not you see this concept!) You choose where to live, the bills you have, who you spend time with, and what you do with your day.

Waking up and instantly going to complaining is not realizing you are making that choice and then whining! Moaning about your life circumstances, that you chose, and then because it's so "awful" you turn to your selection of soothing. (Phone, food, gossip, and distraction.)

So now what? What is the next step when you don't like your current circumstances or past choices?

Step one is owning your decisions. You and only you decided to choose this. No one made you get married, get pregnant, eat the whole kitchen, work where you work, and live where you live.

If you don't do this step, you won't be able to come back to your power and decide again.

Step two is asking yourself this question: do I need to change my circumstance, or do I need to change the way I think about the situation I chose?

Nine times out of ten, all you need to do is change the way you think about the life that you chose. Empowerment is owning your thoughts and changing them to what you want every day!

”I'm so thrilled to have a house that I can continuously change and evolve."
"I'm so lucky I have a husband, whom I love, and I get to work on myself so we can have the most fulfilling relationship."
"Aren't I blessed to have kids that I get to tend to and that shows me all of my faults I get to work on!?"
"I'm so delighted to pay my bills because that means I have air conditioning, running water, and heat!"
"I am so blessed to live in a country that allows me to do whatever the flooey I want to do with my day!"

See, it's easy! Stop with the complaining about the gifts in your life and see them as gifts. They could all disappear, and then you'd really have a reason to whine!

Empowerment isn't happy all of the time and rainbows and daisies. It's hard work managing yourself daily!

But dis-empowerment is unhappy most of the time with only small amounts of happiness now and then.

You are waiting for the world to deliver it on a platter.

This isn't how the world works.

You have to go get it!

But as long as you're complaining and the world is happening to you, you can't have what you want. You're stuck and spinning your wheels! Or you are demanding your fair share from a place of entitlement! Which by the way, how is that working out for you?

Do you want to choose your life and emotions, or do you want everything out there to decide for you?

How you answer this question will determine if you are in empowerment or dis-empowerment. All of the results you want are in the word that starts with an E!